Alright! Well, after looking over the list of ideas we made today in class I decided I am going to write about the problems hiding who you are can cause in a relationship. This is a spinoff of my analytical research paper topic of people hiding who they really are to get what they want. I believe that one of the main reasons that relationships don’t work out is because many of us are dishonest right off the bat.
No one likes being lied to or having things kept from them. So why is it that almost everyone under the sun is guilty of doing just that? When you are meeting someone for the first time and you really want them to like you and it’s easy to agree with things they’re saying (whether you truly agree or not). Also, you may keep certain facts about yourself a secret because you think someone else would find it undesirable or judge you. The problem with this is that it leads to an unhealthy relationship.
If you don’t like the opera don’t agree with them when they tell you how much they love the opera. More than likely you will find yourself there on a date in the future and be forced to perpetuate your lie. Another thing is if you are totally in love with sitting in front of the TV and playing Madden, why hide it? For all you know they love video games just as much as you. Basically, the message that I want people to take home with them after reading my Common Place article is to be yourself because that’s the only way you will find someone that likes you for you.
I agree being yourself is very important for finding and maintaining a good relationship. But I also think that sometimes the "crazy" things need to brought out in small doses. Once the other person wants to stick around and see more of who you are, then show them. Once all of the crazy is unleashed and they still stick around, then it is a good thing.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I agree. You definitely shouldn't unload all your crazy on someone on the first date! haha
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